He wrote a long blog post with the same title - minus “subtle” - that I return to read every year. The one point I always seem to remember is the piece about how there are people out there right now judging you and who don’t like you. Don’t spend your energy convincing them to like you. Fuck those people. Spend your time and energy on those who have always loved and supported you. Give what you get and you’ll get what you give.
I’ll have to pick this book up. Thanks for sharing @SimplyAJ10